Woman's meet&eat -- Blessing Children
Elyse Dobson - April 23, 2015
(Special thanks to Merry Vickrey for helping me write this article.)
Last Saturday a group of South Church women met for food, fellowship and to hear from our guest speaker Yvonne Welch on her continuing series "Spiritual Rest in the Life Of A Woman".
The topic this week was "Blessing Children". Yvonne is the mother of 4 and grandmother of 21. Drawing on personal experience and biblical teaching, Yvonne gave us great insights, Scripture references and additional resources to help us minister to and disciple our children and grandchildren.
Bring Them Everywhere You Go.
Yvonne shared a life changing story of the time she went to hear Francis Schaeffer speak. Upon meeting his wife Edith who asked where her children were, Yvonne stated "that she hadn't brought them because she wanted some time to herself." Which Mrs. Schaefer responded "your children are your ministry and your disciples. You should bring them everywhere you go."
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children of one's youth.
Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. -Psalm 127:3-5
- According to 1 Peter 2:5,9 we are called to be a holy priesthood; to teach, bless and pray.
- Goal: to have children feel loved and accepted.
- You are a mirror to your children reflecting in one of two ways 1) You (child) are a blessing. I'm glad I had you. You are worthy. Or 2) I'm sorry I ever had you.
- Live out your faith in daily situations by remembering to put off the old man and put on the new man (Eph 4:22), "I have been crucified with Christ it is no longer I who live but Christ who lives in me..." (Gal 2:20), older men are to be sober- minded, dignified, self controlled, sound in faith in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They teach what is good (Titus 2:3-5). Also remembering that only the Holy Spirit can help you.
- Recognize the power of the tongue. Words can hurt and cause bitter roots. Verses to apply: Proverbs, Ephesians 4:29 "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." Matthew 12:36 "I tell you on the day of judgement people will give account for every careless word they spoke." Instead, remember Proverbs 16:24, "Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body." Proverbs 31:26 "She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue."
- Forgiveness: don't bring up things you've already forgiven.
- Praise them for their inner character (kindness and hard work) not outward beauty. Thank them for helping, for their servants heart. Don't "sandwich" praise with a reprimand. Determine their gifts and encourage them. Look them in the eyes. Do something special with child "date".
- Discipline in love. Set limits. Goal to break the will of child not the spirit. Forgive quickly. Tell them you love them. If you give a spanking don't leave without a hug.
- Teach them to memorize Scripture. Read them Christian biographies.
- Prayer is your biggest influence. Make time each morning to be in God's Word and pray. Pray an appropriate blessing over each child.
- Always point them to Jesus Christ, their hope and salvation.
The Blessing Gary Smalley
The Shaping Of A Christian Family, Elizabeth Elliot
The Uncommon Union, Elizabeth Dodds
Honey For A Child's Heart, Gladys Hunt
Honey For A Teens Heart, Gladys Hunt