As we worked through last week's passage, discovering God's deign & intent for permanence in our marriages, all kinds of questions arose in the minds of many. Even as Jesus' disciples heard the truth, they too came away with a weighty question & conclusion: "If such is the case about marriage, who then should be married?"
As Jesus responds to their questions, and as we consider other passages that may help you with some of yours, may we find the grace & hope we need to trust, love and obey Him today.
10 The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” 11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given.12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”
life application questions
blue = leaders only
growing in truth: So far, Jesus has defined marriage and disallowed even adultery as a reason for divorce. In this week's passage, how do the disciples react? Shock. v10 The disciples said to him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry." The culture allowed divorce. Jesus did not, not even for adultery. That turns their world on its head. This was a hard teaching that separated the surrendered from the separated.
Why is the message “no divorce” so difficult for people to hear? Satan attacks truth with lies. He tickles the ears of hardened hearts. His lies encourage us to seek our own will (divorce) not God’s will (permanence).
Jesus commended celibacy. Why? Celibacy for the sake of Christ's Kingdom facilitates ministry. Since there are no familial responsibilities or distractions, the celibate can focus entirely on his or her ministry role and interest.
What does permanence in marriage model? The faithfulness of Jesus to His Bride, the Church. He is the everlasting, reliable and sustaining power for any marital trial.
Pastor Paige, referenced the story of the woman at the well. Why?
To illustrate that even second, third, etc. marriages are still bonafide marriages in Jesus' eyes, a covenant which is to be honored & kept.
What do stealing, lying, gossiping, idolatry have in common with divorce and adultery?
They are all sins that seperate us from God that need to be repented of.
If someone has been divorced and is now remarried, how should they repent of the sin of adultery? Should they go divorce their new spouse and go back to their previous one? According to Deuteronomy 24.1-4, if either original spouse has remarried, it would be an abomination to return to the original spouse. Instead, confess your sin to God; admit you were were wrong to persue your will instead of His. Resolve to persevere in your current marriage--by His grace through faith--until death do you part.
Where can someone find the strength to endure? Only in the Grace of Jesus. Put Him at the center of your life and marriage--in as much as it is possible for you--through prayer, Scripture, Christian fellowship... through following Jesus.
sharing life together: Are you or someone in the church family struggling with the pain of a difficult marriage or divorce? How can the church help? Prayer, child care, benevolence, conversation...
living on mission: How can you or our church family encourage faithful marriages?? Pray for troubled marriages, for reconciliation. Teach and live God's Truth about marriage: one man, one woman, one flesh, till death, which is an image of Jesus’s marriage to His church.