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— Romans 10.17 —
What is the call God has on a father's life, and how ought he to lead his family?
Throughout the Scripture, God instructs men on how they are to lead & love their families. Are you a father? How well do you follow God's Word, how well do you lead accordingly? Well, if you're truly making any efforts in His direction, you know good and well how dependent you are upon Him for the grace to do so.
Join us today as we survey several passages regarding the call upon the lives of husbands and fathers in leading their families in Godliness.
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growing in truth: Sunday, Fathers day, Paige reminded us of the ministries of SC sustain, restore, proclaim. Observing that if we are faithful in the small things God would be faithful in the big things. Paige talked about a fathers role in the church. Citing Eph:5.23-33
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
30 because we are members of his body.
31 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."
32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Based on the Ephesians passage how should a husband lead his wife?
Jesus, says his relationship with the church is the example for a faithful husband's relationship with his wife. Jesus, is head of the church. Husbands should be head of their wives. Jesus, loves the church, Husbands should love their wives. Jesus, gave himself, the word of God, for the sanctification of the church. Husbands should wash their wives in the word with the goal of their sanctification. Jesus, presents the church as holy and pure to himself. Husbands should wash and protect their wives so that they may be presented holy and pure to the Lord.
What is the fathers role with regard to the children ?
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." A man shall leave... That would indicate that a father has a responsibility to raise a man qualified to be a husband. (Not a child capable of procreating.)
So How does a faithful father raise a man?
By example. We model Jesus with our lives, loving him by obeying him. Teaching our children in word and deed.
4 "Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.
5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.
6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.
7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:4-9
If a father walks and talks like Jesus, and writes scripture on his house. Does that guarantee a child will become a man holy and set apart? Mature in the lord and ready to leave his parents home to be a priest in his home? Yes or No? No.
If a child remains a child (not mature in the Lord unable to lead a family) who failed? The parent, or the child? Discuss. There are no guarantees but this one: No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him. And I will raise him up on the last day. John 6:44.
What should you do if so far you are doing a poor job raising a man?
Take small steps. Start living like Jesus. Pray, Put Jesus/scripture at the center of your family life. Put your family in fellowship with other Christian families. (Sustain, Restore, Proclaim)
1 My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments,
2 for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you.
3 Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart.
4 So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man.
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
7 Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil.
8 It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
9 Honor the LORD with your wealth and with the first fruits of all your produce;
10 then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.
11 My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline or be weary of his reproof,
12 for the LORD reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
What if you have parented well or poorly yet your child is not walking with the Lord. Discuss.
God is Gracious the same Grace he has extended you is on offer for your children. 1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
2 For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.
3 For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh,
4 in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.
sharing life together:
How can the church family better help you model Jesus to your family? Discuss. Are there families in the church that need help? How do we help?
living on mission:
How can the church family better help your family model Jesus in the community? Discuss.